The 23 Best Online Dating Sites in the United States

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The United States of America is the undisputed heavyweight of online dating. Online dating in Brazil, ColombiaArgentina and other countries just cannot compare in terms of sheer numbers. The best online dating sites in the United States have millions of members. Even the second tier online dating sites pack a punch with hundreds of thousands of members. If you are willing to put forth the effort it takes to browse through a lot of profiles and send hundreds of messages, you have what it takes to meet a lot of singles in the U.S., no matter where you are in the country.

The U.S. is so great for online dating because there is a site for pretty much any niche or interest you can imagine. The abundance of choice though has its advantages and disadvantages. The advantage of online dating in the U.S. is that you have millions of singles to choose from. The disadvantage is that there are a ton of bad online dating sites full of fake profiles and empty promises.

I created this post as a guide to help you find the best online dating site for you. I’ve done online dating extensively in the United States, read a ton of reviews, and listened to the experiences of friends who have tried out the various sites below. As I mention in my online dating e-book, when I started out, I had no clue what I was doing, and my money was going down the drain each month with no results (or girlfriend) to show for it. I realized over time that I was signing up for the wrong sites and, therefore, was not putting myself in the best position to succeed. Live and learn!

The websites I recommend below (by niche group) have been thoroughly researched and are the ones I recommend as you embark on your online dating journey. These 23 are the best of the best. Enjoy reading and good luck!

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1. General Dating Sites
2. Asian Dating Sites
3. BBW Dating Sites
4. Blacks/African American Dating Sites
5. Christian Dating Sites
6. Gay and Lesbian Dating Sites
7. Interracial Dating Sites
8. Jewish Dating Sites
9. Indian Dating Sites
10. Latin Dating Sites
11. Senior Dating Sites
12. Single Parent Dating Sites

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General Dating Sites

eHarmony.com: While Match.com used to be my favorite site, I now prefer eHarmony. Match.com is a good site, but with eHarmony, because of the exhaustive questionnaire you have to fill out when you sign up, you will spend less time weeding through low quality profiles. If you are in the United States (or even Canada), eHarmony is the first site I would sign up for.

As a side note, it is worth paying for a good subscription on eHarmony to have the highest level of functionality. Remember, your dating life, just like your career, is an investment that will pay off in the end with enough patience and diligence.

 

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eHarmony

 

Match.com: If online dating was boxing, Match.com would be in the heavyweight category. It is a site that has a large number of members, longevity, site functionality and pricing options. I used this site for two years while I was living in New York and had quite a few dates. Unlike eHarmony though, I spent a lot more time weeding through lower quality profiles.

 

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Match.com

 

Chemistry.com: A sister site to Match.com, Chemistry.com is for people who are interested in a serious relationship (similar to eHarmony). The signup process can be a bit tedious, but I am always for thorough sign up processes because it helps weed out the unmotivated daters and spammers. One of the main downsides of this site is that you have to pay to be able to have decent search functionality. Nevertheless, if you run out of options on the sites above, sign up for this website, and see what happens.

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Chemistry

Lavalife.com: Lavalife is a decent site that is popular in the U.S. and Canada. It doesn’t have the breadth of features and comprehensiveness that you will find on Match.com and eHarmony, but it allows free users a high level of features and functionality, something uncommon on the biggest paid sites. On Lavalife, you will have the option to search for people interested in casual dating, relationships or intimate encounters.

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lavalife

 

Plentyoffish.comPlenty of Fish (POF) is completely free to use and sign up. This might sound great, but it is not. As they say, you get what you pay for. Because it is free, you will find that you will need to send out tons of messages even to just get one response. I also found that the overall quality of the members on POF was lower than the pay sites I mentioned above. Sign up for POF when you have completely exhausted the other fine options above.

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Plentyoffish.com

 

Okcupid.com: I used Okcupid.com several times in the past and have never had success with it. It is 100% free to use and 100% low quality in my view. I can’t tell you how many messages I sent as a member of this site without getting a single response. Nevertheless, it has a massive membership base and I have friends who give it much praise (maybe they have the magic touch), so it is worth adding to your dating site list as a last resort.

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OKCupid

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Asian Dating Sites

Match.com: Your best bet if you are looking for Asian dating options will be to sign up for Match.com and then filter by ethnicity.

Most of the general dating sites I mentioned in Section 1 will allow you to search for Asians to date.

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BBW Dating Sites

BBPeopleMeet.com: In case you didn’t know what “BB” stands for, it stands for “Big and Beautiful.” BBW stands for “Big and Beautiful Women.” If you are plus-sized or regular-sized and are looking to date someone plus-sized, this site will cater to you.

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BBPeopleMeet.com

BBWCupid.com: You know I’m a big fan of the Cupid media sites. BBWCupid has the usual awesome, clean interface with all the functionality you will find in my most favorite sister site, BrazilCupid.com (for people living in Brazil). This site for plus-sized people is fabulous and has lots of members spread across the U.S. A quick search of women aged 21-35 who live in the New York area will return over 1000 profiles.

 

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BBW Cupid

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Black/African American Dating Sites

BlackSingles.com: These guys started way back in 2002 as BlackSinglesConnection.com.  Blacksingles.com is probably the most well known site for black singles.

 

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BlackSingles.com

 

BlackPeopleMeet.com: This site has a lot of users both in the U.S. and Canada. If I were starting a dating search for black people, I would start with Blacksingles.com and then go to this site after the well has run dry. For the best results, you can sign up for both sites. I’m always for casting the net as wide as possible. You never know what you are going to catch.

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BlackPeopleMeet

Afrointroductions.com:  If I had limited money, I would stick to the first two black-oriented sites above due to the sheer number of members those sites have. However, if you’ve run out of options, Afrointroductions.com is a decent third option. I used Afrointroductions with a lot of success during my expatriate days in Africa, and it has members in the U.S. as well.

 

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AfroIntroductions.com

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Christian Dating Sites

ChristianMingle.com: If religion is a big relationship criteria for you and you are Christian, I recommend you begin your online dating journey with ChristianMingle.com. It is completely free to sign up. Even as a free member, you will have a wide range of functionality uncommon among many online dating sites. The guys have been around since the dawn of the internet era in the 90s and have built up a huge membership base since then.

 

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Christian Mingle

 

ChristianCafe.com: ChristianCafe.com would be my second option after exhausting all the possibilities at ChristianMingle.com. It has a user-friendly interface and a super quick registration process.

 

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Christian Cafe

 

ChristianCupid.com: I can’t help but add the Cupid-based Christian site, ChristianCupid.com, because it has such a pretty interface. I have had so much success with the Cupid-based sites that I am probably one of the company’s biggest advocates. I found love on a Cupid Media site (BrazilCupid.com). With that said, I would use this site as a third option if your two options above don’t give you the results you were looking for.

 

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Christian Cupid

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Gay and Lesbian Dating Sites

Match.com: Your best success if you are looking for gay and lesbian dating options will be to sign up for Match.com and then filter your search accordingly.

GayCupid.com: GayCupid.com is Cupid Media’s gay dating site. One of the best features I like is the verification of identity. Fake profiles are always a huge issue with dating sites, so I like how they have this option for people who want to let others know that what you see is more likely what you are going to get.

 

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Gay Cupid

 

PinkCupid.com: PinkCupid is the lesbian-based Cupid Media site.

 

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Pink Cupid

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Interracial Dating Sites

InterracialMatch.com: I’m all about expanding your horizons beyond your race. My dream is that one day race isn’t as much of a factor as it is today in who we chose to partner with. If you are interested in dating outside your race, InterracialMatch.com is a good first choice. It has a ton of members. Its only drawback is its limited chat capabilities.

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InterracialMatch.com

 

InterracialCupid.com: While InterracialCupid doesn’t have the name recognition and member base of InterracialMatch.com, it is run by Cupid Media, which makes it a good site to use in my book if you run out of options at the site above. For best results, sign up for a Gold or Platinum subscription so that you can appear higher in the search results.

 

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Interracial Cupid

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Jewish Dating Sites

Jdate.com: Jdate.com is the king of kings for Jewish-based dating sites. This is simply the best Jewish-based dating site on the web and the largest too. If you absolutely run out of options at Jdate.com, you can try Match.com and filter by religion.

 

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JDate

 

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Indian Dating Sites

If you are considering dating Indians, you are best off using one of the general sites I mentioned in Section 1 and filtering by race.

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Latin Dating Sites

LatinAmericanCupid.com: This is the best site for dating Latin Americans. You will find some beautiful women (and men), particularly if you do a search around the larger cities in the U.S. such as New York. I’ve been a member of LatinAmericanCupid.com and can tell you that it is also a great site to use if you plan on venturing outside the U.S. to countries such as Peru or the Dominican Republic.

 

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Latin American Cupid

Amigos.com: Amigos.com is an old reliable site. It isn’t what it once was in terms of quality, but it is still a good site to use as a second option to the one above if you are looking to date Latin Americans. It is also a decent site to use should you be thinking about moving or traveling to Mexico.

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Amigos.com

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Senior Dating Sites

SeniorPeopleMeet.com: If you are a senior (aged 50+), SeniorPeopleMeet.com is an awesome site for you. It has a relatively reasonable monthly fee for the paid options and has pretty much all the functionality you would want in an online dating site, including video greetings.

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SeniorPeopleMeet

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Single Parent Dating Sites

SingleParentMeet.com: This is the largest dating site on the web for single parents. If you are divorced or raising a kid by yourself, I recommend you start your dating search at SingleParentMeet.com.

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SingleParentMeet

There you have it folks. The list above are the 23 best online dating sites in the United States.

Online Dating Strategy: 

  • A lot of what I learned while dating online was through trial and error, planting a lot of seeds in order to get success…learning what works and doesn’t work and refining my approach along the way. You might have your own online dating strategy, and that is cool, but if you don’t and need a starting point, go and buy my e-book, Online Dating Success: How to Find Love Anywhere in the World. In the book I go into detail about how to set up a profile, what I recommend writing for your initial and follow up messages, when to ask the woman/man you’re interested in to go offline for a date, and more.

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