The 3 Best Dating Sites in Indonesia (What I Learned)

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Indonesian Actress – Nyomi Marcela (Source: Wikimedia Commons)

Here is the quick list of my top three dating sites in Indonesia. I’ll go into more detail in my reviews later in this article.

  1. IndonesianCupid.com
  2. DateInAsia.com
  3. Tagged.com

Indonesia like Malaysia and Singapore has a pretty small but effective online dating scene. There are a handful of really good dating websites and apps to choose from. They all have a simple interface (that even my grandmother would have no trouble navigating) and a good-sized membership base to make it worthwhile to elect the paid membership option.

Let me start off by saying that, if you want to increase your chance of success in Indonesia, go to a big city with a large population, such as Jakarta, Surabaya, Bandung, or Medan. Bali is also good because it is a tourist destination and attracts a lot of Indonesian women from around the country.

The problem with the smaller towns is that they don’t have a lot of members. And because dating is a numbers game, you really need to have a large mass of singles ready to mingle in order for any of the sites/apps below to deliver results.

Here are a few more things to keep in mind about dating in Indonesia:

  1. Public displays of affection (e.g. kissing, making out, etc.) are a big NO in Indonesia.
  2. Many women (especially outside of the big cities like Jakarta, Surabaya, Bandung, and Medan) are waiting until marriage to have sex. Whether a woman is waiting or not is a case-by-case basis.
  3. Don’t be surprised if a woman asks you to meet her family very early on…within a month of knowing her.

Should you decide to sign up for the online dating sites I recommend below, be sure to read member profiles carefully as you might come across a lot of fake profiles. Usually, I can spot these profiles pretty easily. A woman who has only one picture posted, is wearing a tight bikini and making an overly suggestive pose are usually clear signals to steer clear. Another clue of a pretender is a woman who has a poorly written profile. As a general rule of thumb, the more boring the profile, the more boring the person.

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Indonesian Model – Kamidia Radisti (Source: Wikimedia Commons)

Without further ado, here are my detailed reviews of the top three dating sites in Indonesia.

1. IndonesianCupid.com

IndonesianCupid is the best online dating site in Indonesia. No other site has found that good balance between quality, size of membership, and affordability.

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Indonesian Cupid

IndonesianCupid is part of the Cupid Media Network, and thus sports the same clean website design, easy sign-up process, and great communication features as other Cupid Media sites. Detailed profiles and effective anti-spam measures add to this site’s strengths.

Unfortunately, IndonesianCupid seems to harbor a fair number of sketchy profiles, who will message you immediately after signing up, without visiting your profile. Avoid these few bad eggs though, and you will enjoy using this site.

Sign up Process

Signing up is a pleasantly brief process, with only your Facebook account or your name, gender, password, and email required as a first step. Next, just share a few words about yourself and what your ideal partner would look like, and you’re in.

At this point, you can either finish filling out the rest of your profile or start searching for that perfect match right away. When you get around to finishing your profile, get ready to spend some time doing so, as there is a lot to fill out. Some of the questions in the Personality Profile section are repeated from the Profile and Interest tabs though, which feels like an oversight.

How to Locate Potential Matches

When looking through your matches, you can view search results in four ways: photos only, photos and basic information, photos, basic information and a short blurb, and by full profiles. You also have many options for narrowing down your search, including searching by: age, location, and education, body type, ethnicity, lifestyle choices (smoking, drinking, etc.), marital status, whether they have kids, religious views, even their star sign.

How to Communicate with Other Members

Basic messaging on IndonesianCupid has a few options, none of which very useful if you’re looking to genuinely connect and communicate with other members. You can “send interest” to and favorite other members, which they will be notified of. However, if both of you are Standard members, neither of you will be able to speak to the other.

You can send messages, but not read them, as they’ll be “locked” and blurred out. The one upside here is that communication features as a premium member are fantastic. Audio, video, and IM are all available, and have proven to be invaluable features for ensuring match compatibility before meeting in person.

Unique Site Features

One of my favorite features on IndonesianCupid is the opportunity to filter who you receive messages from. You have many filtering options, from age and location, to nationality, religion, ethnicity and more.

While this feature will typically be more useful for women, as they tend to receive more messages than men on dating websites, I personally found this feature extremely useful for filtering out spam messages.

What is Included in Each Membership Level

  • Standard – Craft customized searches, browse recommended matches, send interest, communicate with premium members
  • Gold – All of the above, plus: Communicate with all members, audio/video chat, Instant Messaging, ad-free browsing, anonymous browsing
  • Platinum – All of the above, plus: Higher ranking in searches, more profile space, extensive search features, message translating, VIP profile highlighting

Dating is a Numbers Game

As I mention in my online dating e-book, just like the real world, there will be men or women who you will not click with or who don’t respond to your messages (or just disappear). There will be men or women who might only be interested in helping you to part with your hard-earned cash. That is life. Just keep sending out messages and reach out until you find the person you are looking for and get success.

 

2. DateInAsia.com

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Date in Asia

DateinAsia.com is completely free and has a lot of members. I know a lot of friends who love this site because it has a bunch of members, and they’ve had success with it. I find the quality on DateInAsia pretty poor though, and the number of women looking for “clients” seems high. However, if you prefer a free dating site, this is an ideal place for you.

The benefit of this site is that it has a lot of members, and, if you work hard enough, you are virtually guaranteed to come away with some contacts. However, at the end of the day, you get what you pay for. You will have to spend a lot of time weeding through low quality profiles.

If you’re interested in signing up for DateInAsia, check out my full write-up on the site over on my review of the best dating sites in Malaysia.

 

3. Tagged.com

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Tagged

I like to leave no stone unturned in the dating search, so I recommend you sign up for Tagged and give it a try after you’ve exhausted the other options above.  I must say that the Tagged interface is not nearly as clean as the interfaces of the sites I mentioned above and is a bit confusing for my tastes. Also, not all of the profiles seem to be real, meaning that you have to weed through a lot of garbage in order to find the hidden gems.

If you’re interested in signing up for Tagged, check out my full write-up on the site over on my review of the best dating sites in Vietnam.

Good luck out there! Remember to be patient (success in dating takes time), and don’t give up.

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