The 4 Best Dating Sites in Australia (What I Learned)

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Australian Model – Laura Dundovic (Source: Wikimedia Commons)

I signed up for every dating site and app that I could find in Australia. There are some really good ones (and some not so good ones). Here is my quick list of the top 4 that I would focus my time on if I had to do it all over again (with #1 being my favorite). I’ll go into more detail in my reviews below.

  1. OasisActive.com
  2. RSVP.com.au
  3. eharmony.com.au
  4. OKCupid.com

I’ll preface this post by saying that your best success with any of the sites below will be found in a major city like Sydney, Melbourne, Brisbane, Perth, or Adelaide. The problem with smaller towns is that there just aren’t enough members to make it worth your time to sign up. You’ve got to be in cities that have a large population of singles because dating is really a numbers game. The more people you contact, the better your chance of success.

Also, one more piece of advice…if you are looking for a short term hookup, Tinder is definitely your best option. However, if you are looking for something more longer term (like I was), check out a real dating site like the ones I will mention below.

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Another Photo of Australian model Laura Dundovic (Source: Wikimedia Commons)

1. OasisActive.com

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Oasis Active

OasisActive.com (i.e. Oasis) is my favorite option if you are considering dating in Australia.

The site is massive and completely free. This site was launched in 2008, quickly becoming one of Australia’s biggest dating sites. In 2014, Oasis merged with another Australian online dating giant, RSVP.com (which I mention below), in an effort to reach more members globally.

At last check, Oasis had around 17 million members in its network, around 70% of these being Australian, with growing member bases in Colombia, Chile and Mexico. At the time of writing this review, when I was on Oasis, over 450,000 members had used the site in the last 24 hours.

Oasis’s main strengths are its huge pool of members and the fact that it is completely free to use. It doesn’t have the bells and whistles that a lot of other dating sites have. I would consider it a functional but pretty basic dating site as far as features are concerned.

Sign up Process

To sign up, link your Facebook account or enter your gender/gender of interest, username/password, email, birthday and location. You are now a member of Oasis. Your profile is easy to fill out, consisting almost entirely of drop-down boxes and check-boxes.

There is also a section to describe your ideal match, with your own words, and selected gender, age-range, and location. You have the option to automatically filter out all messages from profiles that don’t meet your selected criteria.

You can also select a background for your profile, with different photos and colors to choose from, upload a profile photo and a private gallery of up to 20 photos that will only be shown to people you choose.

How to Locate Potential Matches

Searches can be as broad or detailed as you like, with many different options for filtering your search. These come in the form of check-boxes, organized into various categories: Identity, Appearance, and Lifestyle & Personality.

You can also exclude members with whom you’ve had previous contact with, or already blocked or removed from your matches. Oasis will also recommend matches for you, based on your profile and selected filter criteria.

How to Communicate with Other Members

Oasis does things a little differently here. As they explain right when you sign up, when someone likes your profile, you are given three days to reply. If/when you reply, you are both added to each other’s Contact list, and can start chatting right away. You can also say “no” straight away, or “maybe” and decide later. If three days pass, the notification is deleted. Chatting with members 1-on-1 is a simple text messaging feature, with emoticons.

Two final options are to like someone’s photo, or send a “Shout Out”, a public message to your 1000 most active matches. Shout Outs are free if you share Oasis with your Facebook friends, or a few dollars apiece.

Unique Site Features

Oasis has a few small unique set of features, both for use when viewing profiles. First, you can “like” other members’ photos. This is an easy, indirect way to communicate with someone, and you can also use others’ votes on your own photos to help you decide which one should be the face of your profile. The votes don’t lie!

Second, you can take notes on different profiles, for future reference.

What is Included in Each Membership Level

  • Free – Everything!

 

2. RSVP.com.au

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RSVP

Founded on Valentines Day 1997, RSVP is the other site that I would definitely sign up for whether you are an expat in Australia or a local looking for love. It is user friendly and has really improved since I first entered the site way back in 2013.

RSVP is the giant of online dating in Australia. It has lots of members (2 million+), and the rate of response is surprisingly high for such a large site with so many members.

The stats only get more impressive: 40,000 conversations a day, 1 in 3 Australian couples that met online met on RSVP, and 1 out of every 5 Australians who used RSVP ended up married or with a life-partner.

Sign up Process

After entering your basic info, RSVP asks you to upload a photo, and then asks a few questions about yourself and your ideal partner. After these questions, you can continue filling out your profile, or start browsing for matches.

Your profile consists of a headline (a personal tagline of sorts), your personal information, physical traits, career and education, and lifestyle, and whether or not you have children or pets. You can also enter your favorite music, books, etc. and join some RSVP groups.

How to Locate Potential Matches

Finding compatible matches through the basic search feature is made easy with a ton of different refinement options. RSVP also picks matches for you based on 2-way compatibility between selected ideal match criteria.

RSVP has a couple features that you won’t see at many other dating sites:

  • Why Not Consider – Profiles that may not fit within your specified criteria of an ideal match, but are looking for people like you! RSVP thinks these profiles are worth checking out, and I must say, I agree.
  • Top 100 – Here you can check out the 100 most popular users on RSVP by age category. Although I enjoyed looking through these profiles, I imagine any women in the top 100 get even more messages than normal, which sure didn’t help my chances at all.

How to Communicate with Other Members

Free members can send “kisses”, but to actually message anyone, you’ll have to either upgrade to premium or buy “stamps”, which give you unlimited contact with a member for 30 days. This was a unique system for sure, but to me it felt cheap and unnecessarily limiting. They advertise as an upside the fact that you get your stamp back if your message isn’t read, but this is only if your stamp isn’t read in 30 days. Some may like this feature, but I personally prefer paying a flat rate to message as many people as I like.

I wish they would get rid of the whole stamp pricing thing. It gets expensive fast. If you are like me who does the “cast the net wide” approach but loves being on a budget, you will see that your wallet will be drained quicker than you can imagine. I am a much bigger fan of subscriptions where I pay a fixed fee and know exactly what I am getting.

Unique Site Features

One feature I did enjoy was the 15-minute personality test. Not only do you receive an in-depth personality report after completion, but RSVP uses your results to find even more compatible matches for you.

I also like the cool messaging and chat features and how the site allows you to upload more pictures than a lot of other dating sites of its kind.

Pictures are key on online dating because people tend to be lazy and often don’t read profiles. And if you have done any online dating, you know how cookie cutter profiles can seem. You know, the old “I like walks on the beach, I’m easy-going, etc.”

RSVP also provides a regularly-updated blog, where relationship expert John Aiken lays down some high-quality relationship advice. After soaking up the wisdom here, you can head to one of the live singles events organized by the site, or join discussions online about traveling, hobbies, dating and relationships and more.

As much as I like RSVP, I wish the site would take a page out of eharmony’s playbook and have a more thorough questionnaire to weed out some of the timewasters on the site.

What is Included in Each Membership Level

  • Free – Upload 15 photos, exchange photos, fill out a personality report, hide members, stamp guarantee
  • Standout – All of the above, plus: Personality compatibility reports, priority customer service, ad free mobile browsing, extended stamp expiry, “message read” receipts, highlighted profile in searches, appear at the top of searches
  • Premium – All of the above, plus: Kiss filter and visibility control

In many ways, RSVP is just like the real world. There will be men or women who you will not click with or who don’t respond to your messages (or just disappear).  There are women or men who might only be interested in helping you to part with your money. That is life. 

My Advice: Just keep sending out messages and reach out until you find the person you are looking for and get success.

 

3. eharmony.com.au

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With approximately 33 million members across the globe, eharmony has established itself as a worldwide leader in the online matchmaking industry. 

Founded by accomplished author and psychologist Neil Warren, eharmony offers an array of sophisticated matching elements that enable it to stand out from competing sites. While the price of membership is more costly than many competitors, eharmony members benefit from an unprecedented level of web design and features. 

Sign up Process

If you are interested in signing up for eharmony, you should set aside approximately one hour to complete the process. The process begins with your submission of general information, including location, gender, name and preferred match gender.

The next phase of the sign up process is the completion of a personality test. This test takes approximately 30-40 minutes to finish and includes questions regarding values sought in a relationship, the frequency of various emotional sentiments experienced within the past month, and the degree of passion or skill that you have for a particular activity.

Most questions are answered by using a rating scale that ranges from 1 to 7.

After completing the personality test, you will be asked to provide written responses to some open-ended questions related to partner preferences, activities that you are passionate about, and general background details. You are also invited to provide a photo, though this is not mandatory.

Registration is activated at this point, though members are invited to provide answers to many optional sections related to key interests and special skills. 

How to Locate Potential Matches

eharmony has a platform that is similar to other sites that match members based upon the results of personality tests and questions. Accordingly, you are not able to search or browse member profiles.

Instead, eharmony will evaluate your test results in conjunction with responses provided by other members to assess the potential for compatibility. Matches are then filtered by location, age, and preferred gender. You will receive the profiles of match candidates but are not able to view their photos during this phase of the process.

How to Communicate with Other Members

You can send smiles or engage in basic messaging by text. You can also access eharmony’s Guided Communication protocol, which functions as an ice breaker by providing a systematic set of steps to establish rapport with another member. 

Premium membership is an upgrade that is available to all eharmony members at additional charge. It includes more advanced communication features such as Secure Call, which allows you to contact other eharmony members by phone without revealing your own telephone numbers.

Unique Site Features

The most distinct feature of eharmony is their Guided Communication system. This system involves four easy steps to help you build a connection with another member.

The steps are as follows:

  1. Five Questions: This first step involves two members asking each other 5 questions selected from 55 options provided by eharmony. Members select one of several pre-written answers provided for each question. Questions focus on a variety of topics, ranging from travel philosophy to gender roles.
  2. Make or Break Sharing: In this step, members share details on match characteristics that make or break relationships for them. For instance, if you love to laugh, you may cite a sense of humor as a “make” for you.
  3. Deeper Probing: In this phase, you ask open-ended questions to another member. You can choose from a collection of questions provided by eharmony or craft your own questions.
  4. eharmony Mail: This is the final phase in eharmony’s messaging program. You may opt to skip directly to this step if desired.

 

4. OKCupid.com

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OkCupid

OKCupid is a popular site worldwide that I’ve used in both South Africa and Brazil. It resulted in almost no results for me. Looking back on my history with this site, I think I’ve only had 1 date max despite hundreds of messages sent. Man is it super frustrating. I wish they would add some more barriers to make it harder for pretenders to be active on the website.

OKCupid is really a last resort site if you are in Australia. They have a decent Australian-based user base, the sign up process is easy, and they have a match locator tool. However, the ground is definitely more fertile in the other sites I mentioned above.

OkCupid.com is free to use. It incorporates several algorithms based on expansive question matching to choose the best matches for those who sign up.

The main drawback of this site is that, due to free signup, there are a high number of spammers and fake profiles, making it difficult to find a true and genuine match.

Aside from that, OkCupid.com offers you the ability to find your match based on your interest, if you are looking for a serious commitment or a casual hookup.

How to Signup?

Signing up for OkCupid.com is easy and can be done using your Facebook account or by filling in your details on your own. You will then be asked to choose a username and password. Then, there are questions that ask you about yourself and your personality.

Next, you have to Like three profiles so that OkCupid.com gets to know more about you. Then, you are good to go, and OkCupid.com will display the best matches for you.

You can just have a basic profile or can also upload your photos. Although there are only eight questions that need to be answered when you sign up, there are other columns that ask you to fill in more about yourself. You can share more about yourself, but make sure that you keep it short so that your profile looks attractive.

How to Look for Matches

There are a variety of filters that can be applied on OkCupid.com.  When you browse for profiles on OkCupid.com, the display picture, username, location, age and the ‘%Match’ indicator and ‘%Enemy’ indicator will be shown so that you get to know about the compatibility, and this calculation is done based on the questions you answer initially.

You can either ‘Like’ or ‘Dismiss’ users while using Quickmatch. However, only mutual likes will be shown as matches.

Contacting Other Members on OkCupid.com

In order to communicate with other users, you can use two options: either by liking or by messaging.

Liking is not a preferred option as users will have to purchase the premium membership to know who liked them. If you choose to message, it is free and easy. Alternatively, when you visit a profile on OkCupid.com, the user will get a notification about your profile visit.

What Makes OkCupid.com Unique?

The complex matching system in OkCupid.com is itself unique, and it matches based on the answers you provide to their set of questions, which include your sexual desires, your opinion on interracial marriages and a few weird questions such as what you think about nuclear wars etc.

There are thousands of questions, and the more questions you answer, the more accurate your matches (at least in theory).

Membership Fees and What is Included in Each Membership Level

  • Free – Create a profile, browse, Like, and message other users
  • A-List – Advanced search options, invisible browsing, message filtering, extra message storage, ad-free browsing, username changes, see who has liked you, and see when someone has read your message
  • Incognito Mode – Lets you Like and visit profiles invisibly, hides your profile from searches.
  • Profile Boosts – Appear more often in searches and at the top of the list in Quickmatch.

 

How to Get Started

If you need tips on how to set up a profile, what I recommend writing for your initial and follow up messages, when to ask the woman/man you’re interested in to go offline for a date, buy my e-book, Online Dating Success: How to Find Love Anywhere in the World.

Good luck and happy dating!

Further Reading

  • Worldwide Online Dating Site Reviews: Be sure to check out my country-by-country reviews of the best online dating sites in the world.

  • Worldwide Moving Guide: Everything you need to know in order to plan your move to 65+ countries around the world.

  • Worldwide Jobs Guide: If you are interested in working in this country, be sure to check out my posts on how to find jobs in this country and other countries around the world.

  • Worldwide Apartments Guide: If you are interested in renting an apartment in another country, take a look at my articles on how to find an apartment in various countries around the world.

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